I’m a sappy brother. And my decision to remain single has been difficult and painful, especially with me peeling off the moment I sense I’m getting too close to someone. I’m usually very open and honest about it from start — I don’t intend to hurt anyone.

All your points are just why I can’t deal with a relationship now, and (lol) yes, it’s selfish. It’s the first thing I admit when someone starts liking me. I will be nice, I will be sweet, I will be decent, I will buy you a house, I will like you, I may love you in our short fling but I won’t act on it.

*ring ring* one mocha for the self centered dickhead.

It’s always been hard to express that even though I want to feel, I don’t want to be bound to it. Before your post (which is now a reference for the forcefully single), I’ve expressed myself in many different ways:

“I want to make you happy, but I don’t want to be responsible for it.”

“I don’t want to be unable to enjoy or experience anybody else.”

“I’m impulsive and I don’t want to be grounded because of someone.”

“I don’t want to have to buy two plane tickets, or make sure schedules match before I can travel”

“I don’t want to feel like not talking to anyone but still have to check in with someone.”

It’s a freedom (daresay) versus commitment conflict ultimately, and your post outlines it perfectly.

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